Five tips to support your mental and emotional health

Five tips to support your mental and emotional health

Hello, hello. It is Penny. And I’m here to talk today about mental and emotional health m. And mental and emotional health as a business leader, as an entrepreneur. But this very much applies to everyone. Whether it’s your children, your partner, your employees, when it comes to our mental and emotional health, because we’re all very good at doing, we’re all very good at getting caught up in action taking, many times we don’t recognize that our mind and our body is calling out to us until we really feel it. So for example, probably like many other entrepreneurs, there are times when I’m here in the office. I get head down, I get into flow, and hours and hours can go by and I don’t recognize that all that time has gone by until I have a headache. And that headache is because I am so hungry because I haven’t eaten in six or eight hours. That state, being hungry, which can quite easily become hangry, that impacts our ability to handle stress and things that are going on in our business, in our life mentally and emotionally, because we have taxed our brain to the point from a metabolic standpoint, that it is difficult for us to deal with a stressor or a situation. So now I am much more mindful and I do my best to pay better attention. 

[00:03:01] Now you may say, well, yeah, but you know, I fast. Well, if you’re on a fasting schedule, that’s fine. Your body becomes acclimated to that. But say for instance, you’re someone who grabs a quick breakfast. Maybe you’re having a breakfast of oatmeal and fruit, which even though it has fiber, there’s a lot of, carbs in that. Your body, the way your metabolism works, your blood sugar crashes much more quickly, and it gives you peaks and valleys and it affects your energy, your mental focus. You can have brain fog, nevermind the irritability, and, not able to handle the stressors day to day, but when we are experiencing stress in our business, and I’m even talking about the normalized stress. Daily stress, stress day in and day out, high pressure over commitment, overwhelm, that is not normal. But we normalize it. That’s the culture of business. That paradigm is shifting. It’s changing, but we shouldn’t be in that state every day. We don’t have the opportunity to process our emotions. We don’t have the opportunity to allow our bodies to rest. When our bodies don’t rest, it shortens our mental and emotional bandwidth. I think you can see where I’m going here. 

[00:04:30] Now. one of the things that can create stress, worry, fear in the business is our inner voice. Because there’s some part of us that’s telling us that we have to push that hard. There’s some part of us telling us that we have to go one more minute, one more hour, one more day, before we give ourselves some time off. It’s our inner voice that says, oh, we have to go the extra mile for this client and I have to do it right now. Now that’s not to say that customer service client care is not important. It’s actually very important, but I’ve been there. I know. And I know what some of you are doing when it’s not urgent. You’re making it urgent in your mind. And you’re causing yourself to have to do more and more. Your inner voice is talking you into believing that only you can do a certain task well enough. That if you don’t do it, it’ll take longer if someone else does it. And you’re not able to let go of control in the business, it’s your inner voice. That’s telling you that you have to be super cautious and super afraid of what other people may think. 

[00:05:56] When we can step into this place, where one, we realize that control is an illusion and two, we can accept ourselves for doing our very best and accept that we’re smart enough to know when we need to go out and gather more knowledge, then we can let go of all of that. Now I’m not talking about perfectionism. Perfectionism is, that is just like a total and complete waste of mental, emotional, and physical energy. I’m not talking about the, oh, well, once I, reach this next milestone, it’ll be good enough. Or when I reach the next milestone, it’ll be good enough. No, I’m talking about; you get into a situation. You’re like, oh, you know what? I have a knowledge gap here. Let me fill the knowledge gap. And then I will, I will be ready. That voice in your head is telling you it’s not good enough, people aren’t gonna like it. What if they don’t like the new direction that your company is taking, maybe you bring in a new partner in the company or you sell an equity share, whatever that looks like. It’s important to be aware, and wise, about what you’re doing. But when you are allowing your mind to run your emotions, then it becomes detrimental. And when I say, when you allow your mind to run your emotions, yes. All of our emotions come from our mind. But what I’m saying is when you let your thinking run your emotions, that’s when we get into the weeds of mental and emotional health, because unnecessary fear and worry is caused by our thoughts.

[00:07:50] I had a coach, once, who called it future surfing, living in the future. Right? Most of the things that we get caught up in our head about in the future, most of the things never come true. We are just spinning our wheels and burning our mental, emotional energy. So if you’re finding yourself, getting into worry, getting into fear, getting into doubt, I want you to recognize that is a function of your thoughts and your thinking. It’s not the same as anticipation, if you’re like, well, I have to anticipate what might be coming, well, yes. I mean, you can anticipate next steps, but fear around those next steps, worry and doubt as to whether or not they will be good enough if they will be in place one time, those types of things, you have the capacity and the ability to project timelines, you have the capacity and the ability to develop a plan B. If you’re getting caught up in a situation where you’re thinking, well, I said I was gonna have this out by, I don’t know, let’s say the 21st of the month, and now there’s been some snafu and it takes me till the 23rd. What are people gonna think? Well, you know what? People are gonna think all manner and range of things.

[00:09:12] If you realize that you can’t make a deadline, just own up to it and say, hey, I was expecting to have this to you by this date, whatever the reason is like I underestimated or something unexpected came up, it is taking longer. I will notify you as soon as it’s available. I expect it to be before and then give another projected date. This happened to me just the other day. I led a full day workshop. The videos needed to be edited. And I chose to edit the videos myself, because number one, I was the only person that knew where the timestamps were that the video needed to be cut. And if I had to watch the whole damn thing to find the timestamps, then I may as well clip it, process it and export it because that only takes 10 extra minutes. And something came up on my schedule that was unavoidable, and it delayed my ability to get it out there. And I just sent an email and said, Hey, this is what’s happening. Is it possible that someone was unhappy with that? Absolutely. But it’s better than not saying anything and hoping people don’t notice. And because of the delay, there is a bonus that I’m giving on the back end of that. There is a way to stay in integrity around these things. 

[00:10:39] So when it comes to your mental and emotional health, the most important thing you can do is get present with yourself. Even when you’re busy, head down, be present with yourself, you can be in flow and be aware of your own internal state. At the same time, it takes practice if you’ve never done it before. But you can do it. You can be mindful when you’re in flow and make sure that your body is being taken care of. You can be present and be mindful when you’re in a project with a deadline. And if you’re just going all in, you can be mindful and present and make sure that your needs are being taken care of. If you get completely lost in the weeds, set an alarm, as a reminder to eat lunch. Set a timer, you can get a habit tracker to remind you to drink water, to be healthy. And you may say, well, what does that have to do with mental and emotional health nourishing? Our body has a lot to do with our mental and emotional health, listening to our body exercising, getting outside. I feel like I’ve slipped for a moment back into. Healthcare mode, but that’s totally not the intention of what I’m doing here, but I know that mental and emotional health has become the buzzword.

[00:12:04] If you listen to your body, if you nourish shit well, if you drink water, if you get outside, if you exercise, that goes a long way toward your mental and emotional health and oh, and for God’s sake, don’t forget to have some fun, right? Throw some fun in there too. Just for good measure. But be present with your mind, be present with where your attention is. As you’re making decisions, be aware of what is driving you to make the decisions that you’re making. And if it is your inner voice, getting into fear, worry, and doubt, then that is something that can be shifted. That can be neutralized. You can’t turn the voice off, like a switch. That voice comes from the ego, but you can neutralize the emotion behind it. It’s the emotion that impacts our mental and emotional health. Those are the things that I work with people on all the time.

[00:13:00] I want to invite you, if you are a highly successful professional, if you find that taming, this inter voice is something that’s going to allow you to let go of the fear and the doubt so that you can move forward with clarity and focus, creating that impact, creating the legacy, having the lifestyle that you desire. If, you recognize that taming, that inner voice is a huge part of that, then I would love to have you in my Facebook group. Yes. I know. Social media, whatever. I would love to have you in my Facebook group, because I’m going in and doing weekly live trainings in the Facebook group. I’ve only recently done that, but I am supporting other entrepreneurs who are ready to have that mental and emotional health. They’re ready to let go of that fear. They’re ready to overcome the self doubt. Because it’s those things that keep us from feeling fulfilled in what we do. It’s that inner. That we feel like we’re 95% to this great and wonderful life, but then every, so often something crops up and here we go again and it’s like, Ugh, is it ever gonna end? Well, that’s what I help you with. So anyway, I would love to see you in the Facebook group. I’m gonna put the link to the group in the show notes, it’s called On The Path. The name will be changing soon to what I don’t know yet. I will be inspired and you will be the first to know when I do, but the link is in the show notes. I want you to go join the Facebook group. I’ll give you access to a powerful hypnosis that will allow you to amplify your confidence. And I would just love to see you there. Would love to love up on you, share some amazing resources with you, so you can go out there and just do the damn thing. Do the thing that you’re here to do until next week, bye now.

Find your way over to the Facebook Group! We would love to have you there.

One of my favorite ways to task my subconscious mind for success!

One of my favorite ways to task my subconscious mind for success!

Are you optimizing all of the resources that are available to you to move through an issue? There are some surprising ways that we can get answers to our questions, that we can release things that will allow us to move forward in our life. This one may seem odd to some of you, but I know to a lot of my audience they’re gonna go, oh yeah, absolutely. I do this. Your mind when you are asleep, your conscious mind is offline, your body is resting, but your subconscious mind and your unconscious mind is still at work. Your unconscious mind being the part of you that operates your bodily functions, your immune system, your heart rate, your breathing. It’s also where the reticular activating system is located. And it’s the reticular activating system that will send a signal to wake you up if there’s a bump in the night. It’s… I’ve mentioned it before, it’s like that guard dog with the ear cocked up, always listening. It’s the thing that changes for a mother when she has a baby. When you think, oh my gosh, I’m such a deep sleeper. Will I hear the baby cry? Yes, you’re gonna hear the baby. It’s part instinct and it’s part having that awareness that you now have an infant in the house, and you need to be aware of the cry. You’re literally priming your mind to alert you when you hear a baby’s cry.

[00:02:53] But when we’re sleeping, this is when short term memory can get converted to long term memory. It’s when our body, through neurophysiological responses, can set in motion healing. This is why sleep is so important. You wanna be sure to get enough sleep, but not too much because too little or too much sleep are both detrimental. Maybe I’ll do an episode at one point on sleep. There is no set number of hours that is blanket for everybody. Typically, if I make it through five sleep cycles in a night, I’m good. For most people, a sleep cycle is an hour and 15 minutes to an hour and 30 minutes. That full sleep cycle allows you to get into REM state, where we dream. So your subconscious mind is active when you’re sleeping. It’s converting short term memory to long term memory. If there are pathways that are no longer utilized, no longer needed, it can break those things down. 

[00:04:03] Now, I have to put this in context a little bit, because as hypnotist we often talk about with neuroplasticity, when someone is changing a habit that when you create a new habit, you’re creating a new neural pathway, the old neural pathway doesn’t go away. It’s still there. So take, for example, someone who drank too much. I’m not gonna say alcoholic because that’s at the far end of the spectrum, but say someone drank too much and they didn’t like it. So they quit drinking or someone who smoked and they quit smoking because they didn’t like it. That old neural pathway is still there. It’s not uncommon to hear of someone who stopped a habit and then one day they’re like, you know, I’ll have just one cigarette or I’ll have just one drink and then they’re back to smoking or drinking or, whatever it is, the habit. They fall right back into it. It’s because that neural pathway is still there. 

But when we do things like shift beliefs, and we literally knock out the structure of the old belief. then the subconscious mind is going to process that it’s one of the things that forces our brain into a state of reorganization when we do hypnosis work. When we do subconscious work, that subconscious success coaching, with the conversational hypnosis, is that we are literally rendering those old beliefs to be faults, and once the mind recognizes their faults, those beliefs are no longer needed. 

[00:05:39] So what can you do to optimize sleep to get what you want? Before I go to sleep at night I actually do a self hypnosis. And as a part of that self hypnosis, I might give my subconscious mind a command such as, ‘find any beliefs that are preventing me from achieving blank and delete them. Search and delete.’ Or, ‘tonight, reprogram my subconscious mind to feel safe earning X number of dollars.’ So if you’re someone who grew up, in a very modest household, maybe middle class, but you always heard your parents talk about people who had money were, you know, they were crooked, they couldn’t be trusted, they were selfish. And while you know that there are a lot of great people with a lot of money who are doing wonderful things, they fly under the radar. They’re making an impact in other people’s lives more so than they are their own. You know this, you believe this, you believe that you’re worthy of it on the surface level, but deep, deep, deep down, you always heard these stories. So you can tell your subconscious mind before you go to sleep, ‘subconscious mind in my sleep tonight, I want you to rewrite this story, that wealthy people are good people, that good people with wealth do great things.’ And you can just do that every night. 

[00:07:24] Now let’s take this a step further. This is where I love to play. This is an absolute playground and that is dream time. Now there are gonna be people say, oh, I never dream. Unless you have certain diagnosed sleep issues, you do dream. We just don’t remember. So many times we don’t remember and some medications can keep people from dreaming, but for the most part, we all dream, ee just don’t remember. So the first step in this whole process is when you lay down to go to bed at night, you tell your subconscious, remember my dreams and bring me the information in a way I can understand. Then you can tell your subconscious mind “sub I want you to go into dream time and bring me the lessons that allow me to release beliefs around money that no longer serve me.’ And then just go to sleep. Now, here’s the thing. When you ask your subconscious mind to do this work in dream time, the answer does not always come in your dreams. The answer may come the next day, or it may come in a few days. Just suddenly you get a sign, you see something, you hear something. And instantly you’re like, ah, that’s the answer. Your subconscious mind has been working on that. 

[00:08:55] When I wrote my number one international best seller “Breaking the Fibro Code”, just before that book went to the editor, I made an entire change in the people who I serve. But at the time I wrote the book, I was planning to work with people with fibromyalgia, and the morning the book was to go off to the editor I rewrote the entire introduction. And what I had been dealing with was I was bridging this gap between meeting the reader where they were and not offending the medical community, because if you’re offending the medical community, they’re not going to share the book and the book would be beneficial to people. And I realized at a late moment, I’m like, ‘you know what? My tone is in the tone of the client. Who’s going to read the book, but the tone is not going to resonate with the practitioner who is going to feel, yes, this is gonna be beneficial. So how do I bridge this gap and meet the reader where they are? But at the same time express the challenges that face medical providers without casting a bad light on medical providers, because there are a great deal of healthcare workers out there who show up every day and give all of their heart.’ So what did I do? I went into dream time. I’m like, bring me the introduction to this book, because I just didn’t feel like I could send it off. I woke up at 4:30 in the morning and I’m laying there in bed, and all of a sudden, just a whole flood of information came to me. I didn’t pass go. I didn’t stop. I didn’t pass go. I went straight to my computer. Didn’t even get dressed and I sat down and I wrote 3000 words in under an hour. My husband got up to go to work and he could hear me back there, pecking away. And he came in to see what I was doing. I literally put my hand in his face because if I so much as broke my state for one minute to answer his question, I was going to lose it all. I knew it because many, many times I get important information to share with my audience, to share with my clients. Whether it’s social media podcast episode in a one on one. I wake up anywhere between three and five in the morning. Sometimes it’s early as two. And as I’m laying there, just chilling out, I don’t stress about waking up because I know that’s my air fingers, quote, “witching hour”. When that information comes I know I have to act on it in some way.

[00:11:47] Now, sometimes the information’s not immediately meant to be shared, so I put it into my notes app on my phone so I can share it at a later date. And that’s how I roll with that. So use your dream time, tell your sub, bring me the lesson in a way that I can understand it. Remember and bring me the lesson in a way that I can understand it, and then tell your subconscious mind what you want it to do. Go into dream time and help me to understand how I can solve this issue or how I can connect with this person? Or what are the next steps in my business? How do I pivot moving forward? And that’s it. That’s the episode for today. I love, love, love, dream time. Sometimes it’s a bunch of metaphors. It makes no sense. Sometimes it makes perfect sense. Sometimes it sends me in a direction to research something, something will come up and I’m like, well, what does this mean? And then I begin researching what came up and I find my answer there. And then, sometimes it’s just ordinary dreams. My brain is rehashing some things that it’s discarding from the past. And it’s just like a slideshow of things from the past that really don’t mean anything. And I’ve put zero meaning on it. because of that. There are some great books out there on dream time. This is what I will tell you when it comes to dream interpretation. If you’re looking for someone to help you interpret your dreams, the best person in the world to interpret your dreams is you because only, you know, what you were feeling and thinking and the dream and the context of everything in the dream. But I will tell you this, pay attention to numbers, pay attention to animals, pay attention to symbols because those things, when you go and you research the meaning of those things, as it pertains to dreams, you can sometimes find your answers there. It’s just plain as the nose on your face, as my grandmother would say anyway. I hope you enjoyed this episode and I will be back next week.

Unexpected benefits of addressing your inner critic subconsciously

Unexpected benefits of addressing your inner critic subconsciously

Hey everybody, we are going a different direction today. Welcome back. I’m excited that you are here. Today, I wanna talk about the surprise benefits of doing the deep subconscious work, because there are surprises that people get. Unexpected things can happen, so I wanna share with you some of the wins that my clients have gotten in my group program, as well as one on one work. Because what I have found is that in my group program, people get so much added benefit out of that because things that they never considered are brought up by other participants, you know. Questions, insights, life experiences, and light bulbs just pop off all the time in the group program. It’s a 10 week program. It’s actually, as this episode is released, we’re about three weeks into it. It will, be the first of the year when I run it again. So you want to be on my email list so that you know when that rolls out or you can just message me on social media and let me know that you want to be in the group program when that rolls out. But here let’s just let’s roll with this. 

[00:02:32] So one of the unexpected benefits that my clients get is they truly truly cannot grasp what it means to be neutral about their past until it happens, and what that literally means for their life. So take one client, for example, came to me for stress and tension in her neck. She always had tight muscles in her neck and she wanted to take care of that. She felt it was emotional in nature. Now, when she and I connected, she had not shared with me that from time to time, she would have what felt like a panic attack. Now she wasn’t diagnosed with these, but she would just “get triggered” by something and hyperventilate and feel overwhelmed. So we do this work because, if you’ve ever read Dr. John Sarno’s book, “Mind Body RX”, then you will know that he says that chronic discomfort in the body is caused by repressed rage. We did this work together and once we went through a process of forgiveness, there was peace. This is the one thing that surprises all of my clients. They truly had never in their life experienced true peace. Now, what was the unexpected benefit of doing that work? Because there was a component of everything that involved this individual’s father. As a full grown adult, there was fear and trepidation around even visiting her father because of everything that had happened and the expectations around the current behavior that was happening. After we did this work, she was able to spend time with him, accepting him for who he was with no expectations and to be at peace completely free of fear, free of any resentment, any frustration. And, shortly afterwards, there were some changes in his health and she was able to be present with him to be at peace with their relationship to reconcile that relationship. And when he transitioned, she had closure. She had closure.

[00:05:18] Another unexpected benefit, if you’ve listened to the podcast, if I think it’s episode 11, it might be 10, it’s the interview with Justina, and she talks about how her son after we did the work for the first time, jumped up into her arms, hugged her and said, I love you. He was never, an affectionate; I shouldn’t say never affectionate, but he, he was not a touch affectionate child. Her hugs were not how he connected with her. And when she let go of what she was dealing with, he, I mean, we did another interview back in February and he just, he loves on her all the time. Put a price on that for me. Because I know so many entrepreneurs and business owners and business leaders who do what they do, because they are determined to break the generational pattern of what they grew up in. Whether it was poverty, a stressed household, financial insecurity, whatever those things were, and then you get into this cycle of being so dedicated to your business the one thing that you, wanted to do was be able to be present with your children and now, you don’t know how to do that because you feel guilty when you’re not in the business. You feel guilty when you’re with your kids, because you’re thinking about the business, those kinds of things. So yeah. 

[00:06:50] I’ve had clients unexpectedly lose 10 to 15 pounds, no dieting, no suggestions for weight loss, but when they drop the weight of the emotion and the beliefs that they were carrying around, the weight fell off. So let me see, what’s another unexpected one. I’m going off a memory here. So you have to bear with me just a little bit because a lot of these things overlap. Another person, I think I mentioned it in a recent episode, we we’re dealing with people pleasing, right? People pleasing. Oh, my gosh. Talk about a complete pivot in change in life. This person is now traveling the world, running a business that they love. An independent location business, and is no longer in corporate. And when you. See the photos, like the social media post you can see the change in the face. That’s another thing. Oh my gosh. I have worked with clients where we do a session; at the beginning of the session, I’m just gonna toss some numbers out here to give you an example. At the beginning of the session, let’s say they’re 40 years old at the beginning of the session they’re tense, they’re stressed, they’re carrying the weight of all this emotion. They look. 50 55 years old because they’re all of this stuff just on the inside it’s just putting so much weight on ’em. And at the end of the session, they can look 30, 35 years old. They literally gain back years of their life in a single session. Now, can I predict when that’s gonna happen? No, but it’s just one of those beautiful, unexpected things. 

[00:08:42] People have come to work on something to do with business and find that their marriage just, it rekindles. Something shifts, something changes, and things just start to fall into place. These are things that you can’t necessarily put a finger on. You can’t put a price on them. And they’re super, super impactful. One of my recent clients was just in this real head space. She has a great high ticket offer, but she would get in her head from month to month. You know, this client’s rolling off. I gotta get another new client in. How did… So we, worked through the things that were connected to these thoughts, and feelings. I use conversational hypnosis a lot. And when I say conversational hypnosis, I’m not talking Ericsonian metaphors and stories and those kinds of things I’m talking about triggering the subconscious mind and pushing the subconscious to solve its own problem. In a sense, what I’m doing in the session is, I’m guiding the client a much better way to think in terms of problem solving so that they can unravel their own knots. I’m just kind of like pushing and guiding them there. So the things that were coming up in these sessions ended up not having anything to do with money, but, let me tell you the things that have shifted and unfolded and unlocked for her are unbelievable. People that she has known for years, now all of a sudden it’s like, oh, what are you up to? I love what you’re doing. Let’s see how we can partner together. How can we work together? How can I take what you’re doing and bringing it in, and she is signing clients effortlessly on a monthly retainer at 50% higher than what she was when we were working together. It was just that simple. And she is in this extremely rewarding trusting, allowing, letting it be an easy place.

[00:11:10] So anyway, if that sounds like something you want, hit me up, let me know. You can get on the email list by going to Pennychiasson.com and signing up for the mindset myth, sign up for the mindset myth. That will get you on my email list. And I will let you know when the next workshop is rolling out in January. I can’t wait to see what unfolds with this group of highly successful people, because I was blown away with what happened in spring. Each group tends to be unique and aligned in its own way, and I just really look forward to being able to share with you some of the takeaways that people have to give you more examples of what’s possible when you simply tame your inner dialogue. When you take care of what it is that’s creating this voice that causes you to feel less confident than you should be. Let’s work on it. Because you’re here to make an impact. And if you’re allowing your subconscious thinking to hold you back, you’re not stepping into the full potential of the service that you could be offering the world. And I’m here for it, man. I am here for you, and ladies. I use man colloquially. But anyway, I guess that’s showing my age and the time that I grew up in and, there’s always areas for us to work and improve. I’ll see you next week.

If you want to listen more to Justina’s initial transformation, listen to her first guest episodes here. To learn more about how our hypnosis work affected long her business and relationships in the long term, give this episode a listen.